Hello, my name is Stephanie and… I… love clothes. Clothes are awesome! I love to experiment with different styles and colors. You could change your look on the daily if you wanted too! It is something that I have really gotten into in the past year. But why the sudden interest in stuffing my closets? Continue reading
This is very true. It is so hard to hear or trust your inner voice after abuse. It takes a lot of hard work. This blog is one of the ways I have been able to explore my thoughts. I cannot recommend writing more as an aid.
It takes practice and patience to learn to hear your own intuition and inner voice, after you have been conditioned over time to ignore yourself.
But you have a wisdom inside of you that is compassionate and intelligent. The narcissist tried to silence it, minimize it, confuse it and discredit it. But you still have an inner voice that can lead you in the right direction for you.
Feel your senses and what they are telling you. Every sensation is part of your guidance system. If something feels wrong, it probably is.
You can override the brainwashing by a narcissist. Learn to trust your intuition and guiding voice.
This is some basic information that I gleamed from the “It’s my life now” book. It a great resource and I recommend it to anyone trying to heal after an abusive relationship. Check out the book page for more information. Continue reading
A family member brought up a good question the other day regarding my blog post about bullying. So it got me thinking…what is bullying and what is not bullying?
So let’s make this a Saturday tradition can we? I break up the tone of talking about abuse and body shaming with stories about my best cat fur baby. He is a special cat after all. Continue reading
I disagree with the first statement of this image, but everything else is pretty much on point. When someone unintentional hurts you it could just be a case of thoughtlessness or cultural differences. For example, I had a coworker last year that used to talk to me about my weight like it was a natural topic of conversation. I found the words she said to me offensive but I brushed it off to cultural/background differences.
As for the bullying… yea I was bullied. I was bullied up until age 32. The last of the bullying ended when I got an order of protection to stop the emotional harassment and fake Instagram accounts using my name and image. I don’t get bullied anymore. It will be dam hard for someone to think they can. My new self-acceptance makes me… for the most part bully proof. Do I still have moments where I feel hurt… absolutely no one is foolproof… I certainly am not. But my recovery game is pretty strong!
What bothers me the most… hearing stories from my 7 year old nephew regarding things kids say to him at school. Kids he still calls his friends. I want to make him understand that these are not his friends. People who are your friends will never bully you. Friends stand up for you when you are getting bullied. Your true friends are ones that even stand up for you when you’re not there to see it. My friends have all done this and I wish for him the same. It pains me that he faces these kinds of situations because some kid thinks it is okay to put him down. Getting upset at him for defending himself tells him that he is wrong and the bullies are right. It’s a difficult thing to navigate. What I’d love to do is find these parents and tell them teach their kids respect. It all starts at home.
How have/would you handle bullies?
Wikipedia describes Bullying as;
“the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual.”
If your child (or yourself) are unsure of how best to categorize any difficult interactions you are having with others, the simple guide below, that was found posted to a fence, will be of help.
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I didn’t realize it until I embarked on my journey back to Earth… but… I am a blessed human being. I am surrounded by such talented and social conscious people that I am lucky enough to call my family and friends. I want to take time out to highlight these wonderful parts of my life (each in their turn) and talk about their creativity and talents. Continue reading