War on Obesity – Dead or Alive

Dances With Fat

WTF are you doingI’ve written before in this blog about how the War on Obesity is conducted in a way that lets us know that they want us thin or dead and they don’t much care which.  One of my many concerns with the horrific new US President is that he has promised to repeal the Affordable Care Act (also known as Obamacare)

This is a big deal because before the ACA was passed, insurance companies were allowed to deny insurance to fat people.  I went fourteen years without insurance because insurance companies were allowed to consider my body size a “pre-existing condition” and deny me insurance in a country where medical care costs are predatory, profit-driven, and expensive far beyond all reason.

This is significant because those who don’t have insurance are often charged up to ten times the amount for the same procedure or medication as the insurance companies are charged (

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Prescribing Daily Stomach Pumping to Fat People

Um no thank you! Okay people I’m going to say it again…there is no such thing as a quick fix! If there was there would be no diet industry. They don’t care about your health by creating these ridiculous things to help you lose weight. They are thinking about their bottom line. They don’t care what happens to you after you alter your body with their weight loss methods. What side effects you suffer if any. They’d go out of business if there was a magic trick to make us fatties get skinny. Think about that.

Dances With Fat

WTFThe FDA has approved a device called the AspireAssist, in which a thin tube is placed in the patient’s stomach that connects to a button on the outside of their stomach.  After each meal the patient uses the tube and a handheld device to pump up to 30% of the meal out of their stomach and into the toilet. I’m going to address the claims on their website, but first I want to talk about a misconception

[Trigger Warning – Eating Disorder talk for the next two paragraphs] The company that makes it claims that it isn’t an “assisted bulimia” device because they say in their fine print that it shouldn’t be used by people with bulimia.  That is, of course, ridiculous and it’s certainly possible that this device my be used by people dealing with bulimia and/or my perpetuate the development of bulimia.  But it should be clear this isn’t actually…

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Men struggle too: A message from Wentworth Miller

Men struggle too: A message from Wentworth Miller

Body image problems, self-hate talk, depression, anxiety, and any other mental health issues that exist all have one thing in common… they don’t care who you are! You can be rich, poor, young, old, male, female, famous, unknown, thin, fat… any, all, or a mixture of these things and you can still find yourself in the midst of personal issues that make you feel alone, broken, or down on yourself. Continue reading

Ashley Judd’s essay on body objectification remains relevant 4 years later!

Ashley Judd’s essay on body objectification remains relevant 4 years later!

I came across this open letter written by actress Ashley Judd in 2012. Its appearance on my computer screen happened through a typical Facebook chain reaction.  Ashley Judd posted an article that was written about her essay… a friend of mine liked her public link… it showed up on my news feed.  Bingo, bango I got to read an interesting and valid essay regarding the objectification of women’s bodies.  What makes this essay relevant four years later… not much has changed in regards to people thinking they have a right to comment and critique your body. Continue reading

Is It Bullying? – A Visual Guide

Is It Bullying? – A Visual Guide

I disagree with the first statement of this image, but everything else is pretty much on point. When someone unintentional hurts you it could just be a case of thoughtlessness or cultural differences. For example, I had a coworker last year that used to talk to me about my weight like it was a natural topic of conversation. I found the words she said to me offensive but I brushed it off to cultural/background differences.


As for the bullying… yea I was bullied. I was bullied up until age 32. The last of the bullying ended when I got an order of protection to stop the emotional harassment and fake Instagram accounts using my name and image. I don’t get bullied anymore. It will be dam hard for someone to think they can. My new self-acceptance makes me… for the most part bully proof. Do I still have moments where I feel hurt… absolutely no one is foolproof… I certainly am not. But my recovery game is pretty strong!


What bothers me the most… hearing stories from my 7 year old nephew regarding things kids say to him at school. Kids he still calls his friends. I want to make him understand that these are not his friends. People who are your friends will never bully you. Friends stand up for you when you are getting bullied. Your true friends are ones that even stand up for you when you’re not there to see it. My friends have all done this and I wish for him the same. It pains me that he faces these kinds of situations because some kid thinks it is okay to put him down. Getting upset at him for defending himself tells him that he is wrong and the bullies are right. It’s a difficult thing to navigate. What I’d love to do is find these parents and tell them teach their kids respect. It all starts at home.


How have/would you handle bullies?

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Wikipedia describes Bullying as;

“the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual.”

If your child (or yourself) are unsure of how best to categorize any difficult interactions you are having with others, the simple guide below, that was found posted to a fence, will be of help.

Is It Bullying? - A Quick Guide

Please sharethis with your friends and family. Let’s do everything WE can to…

bullying wallpaper

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Fat girls can!

Fat girls can!

Today I want to share a quick note about last nights festivities and how I ended up with a picture of me standing on a booth seat. I could very well be remembering the exact turn of events wrong due to a mixture of tiredness, rum punch, and losing yourself to the music. Continue reading